I'm not making any New Year's Resolutions!

I think a lot of you might be surprised at how many women (particularly) are saying this, even at this early stage of the New Year (it's the 2nd January here, so we're well started!)

Is this a different tack we're taking, or is it something we've come to realise is simply common sense and realistic in a world that is constantly telling us to do this, or do that, all for our own benefit, of course!  And that pressure begins to wear thin after a while.

For those of us who are deemed "plus-size" - in fact women per se, because all women seem to be under attack to diet, to undergo cosmetic surgery, to make themselves look far younger than their years (which quite frankly can be done to a great extent with the clever use of makeup tips and tricks). to "do" Botox, WLS, tummy tucks, liposuction, and so on, the "merry-go-round" is no longer funny, and we should all step off!  Right now!

Who has the right to say that I "should do something" about my grey hair;  my wrinkles;  my ample tummy and hips", when they suit me fine.   Now, there's a lot of debate about "if you lost weight then you'd be healthier"!  Ha.   Can this be proven - across the board?   Don't thin women suffer from arthritis, blood pressure, under/over-active thyroids, high cholesterol, and diseases such as cancer, diabetes and the like?  Of course they do.   But you'd think by the constant attacks via the media as well as other "professional" people that it's only the woman who is curvaceous who is the culprit and therefore she deserves all the flak she gets.

Let me ask you this.   Be honest with yourself on this one.  Have you ever started any New Year off with the resolution, "I'm going to diet, seriously this time, and lose weight, and then I'll be healthy, and happy!"  And did it work?  Seriously?    And when it didn't work did you feel guilty and deride and berate yourself mercilessly?  Why?   Have you realised as yet, that diets don't work? - but that good habits (and this doesn't only include food, mind you) are good for you. Surprisingly, and I bet a lot of you won't believe this (as yet anyway), when you've set those good habits into practice, you'll find to your complete surprise that your weight no longer is the problem it seems, because quite literally you'll shed some of it.  I know this sounds too good to be true, but it's happened to some of us here, and certainly to lots of our friends.  

As a group of intelligent, and beautiful women, we've decided not to make resolutions, but to focus on really important things during this coming year.   Relationships, studies, personal lives and life-styles, enjoyment of life, and mixing and mingling with other like-minded women.  Goals for personal development that may be short, medium and long term, but which with discipline and determination we know we can achieve - at least some of them anyway!

So while we're talking about NOT making New Year Resolutions, we'd encourage you to have a look at this absolutely brilliant blog from Kelly Bliss, one of our special friends in the USA.   Start the New Year off with some firm ideas of how you want to feel about yourself and to build upon your self-confidence in the process.  Look at the situation fairly and squarely and honestly and then encourage yourself to strive towards self-acceptance and self-appreciation.   Let's all join hands, even across the miles, and see what we can achieve, individually and corporately.

http://lifewithbliss.blogspot.com/2011/01/have-you-seen-new-years-revolution.html

And after all, New Year's Resolutions too often end up in New YEAR disillusions!  So dispense with them - the disillusions, that is!

.....©2011 Rosemary