Friday, April 1, 2011

How to have peace of mind - or happiness

Most of us live in a world with many pressures - within our homes, our families, our workplaces, our friends and our communities.  It seems we're always trying to meet other people's expectations and we lose sight of our own personal needs.   There's always some form of worry or anxiety that pops up and tries to trip us up in our endeavours to live placid, sensible, peaceful lives.

So here's a few tips.

1.  Don't live in the past.  Don't allow yourself to become captive to past feelings and circumstances.    Learn from,  but don't dwell on those feelings or circumstances.

2.  Refuse to indulge in self-pity.  No-one gets through life without some pain.  10% of what happens happens, but  90% is how we deal with it.

3.  Don't hold onto suspicion and resentment.  Let go.  Forgive, focus and move on.

4.  Cultivate old-fashioned values - love, humour,  compassion - in others words love, laugh and care.

5.  Find something bigger than yourself to believe in.

Self-centred people are always unhappy.

Peace is a "heart" condition.


  1. These are great. And to me they all seem to be part of the process of forgiving, and good living combined.

  2. Number two is my favorite. We can all look around and see someone who is worse off than we are. Plus, all the really rotten people I know,(and I'm not saying these are all bad people, just ineffective and leading mean lives)criminals, drug addicts, abusers, are heavy on the self pity and light on the empathy factor. Self pity strips away a person's integrity and replaces it with that me first perspective that has no benefit for society or for themselves.

  3. Great post Rosemat and just at the right time. I am on a search and rescuse mission and this is what I have recently discovered for myself. Some powerfull words to live by.
    By the way the blog is looking great. :)

  4. Thanks everyone for your encouragement. We all need it from our friends, and your responses have really lifted me.