Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Chronicles of a 21st century Woman


As a motivational speaker and "encourager", I'm always on the look-out for like-minded women, who see the need to surround other women who have low (or no) self-esteem, with lots of positiveness and optimism. That's not to say everyone should go around with a big happy smile on their face, even when their lives are breaking apart, pretending that everything's OK. We have to be sensible and realise that it's a part of life having to go through experiences that will uplift us, and others that will drag us down to depths of despair. But it's what we "do" with the highs and lows that is important. Not only to us but to those around us.

In today's society there is a lot of controversy, hypocrisy and discrimination as it relates to looks, age, size and shape. That discrimination then translates into non-acceptance of a person's race, their education, and their beliefs.

This is when basic common sense and good manners get lost in the overflow of antagonism and hostility, from one person to another. In other words things get out of control. The person on the receiving end finds there's no let-up in the stings and barbs, and the perpetrator becomes immune to any understanding of how the other person feels.

Things become more and more confused and complicated. And there's no real reason why life should be this way.

It's usually women, and quite often family members and friends, who belittle other women because they "look" different, by way of looks, shapes and sizes. Why is it so? Why can't we all get on with one another; sharing accomplishments and hurdles with smiles, added offers of encouragement and just "being there" for each other?

Why do we feel threatened by other women? Either by personal achievement; more beautiful looks and figures; or just an inability to "see" another woman as being a friend rather than a foe?

And what is the answer?   There are a few ways of dealing with this.   If we do feel "threatened" by the success or otherwise of other women, we should ask ourselves why we feel this way.   Then think about our own attributes or successes and learn to see ourselves as accomplishers in our own right. 

If you feel that other women discriminate against you personally, then there are two options available to you.  One is to go along and accept this sort of treatment (which won't do you much good in the long run) or two to take the situation in hand, explain that you'd rather be in harmony with others rather than at war, then leave it to them to take the course of action they prefer.  If they walk away and you lose out on their "friendship",  then you must ask yourself, "were they actually my friend in the first place?"   

We can all do with analysing our behaviour and tolerance and acceptance of others - it's called "growing up", and we can learn a lot from tackling challenges of this sort. 

..... © Zuzu

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