"I'll wait until I lose wait .... before I travel overseas", "..... before I do that course at University", "..... before I'll buy that gorgeous red taffeta dress"; "....... before I'll start going out"; "...... before I'll find a man who is attracted to me"........ before I'll buy a swimsuit"; "...... before I'll join some friends for coffee"; "before I'll have a baby". And so it goes.
Look at it this way. Why do we wait? Why should we wait? Because if we look at the situation fairly and squarely, we'll see that we're setting ourselves up for a "what if we don't lose the weight" scenerio, and what happens then? We become embittered and despair of ever being happy.
We go without the things that we would dearly love to achieve in the meantime, and who's to say that the opportunity to do what we wish for will still be there should we happen to lose that weight? We may be successful in losing the weight and then find to our dismay that we don't or can't do what we dearly wanted.
On the other hand, I say (and OK this has been learned over many decades and through many episodes of self-doubt) go ahead and do these things NOW. Putting things off never achieved anything really substantial in the long run. Travel overseas - do that course - buy that dress and swimsuit - go out and meet up with friends - and if you and your partner are determined try for a baby. And there's no reason why you shouldn't find a man who finds you attractive - it happens all the time - you just don't hear about all the success stories!
Don't put things off. Too many stories are told of people who missed out on so much just because they put things off "until they lost weight ......".
Losing weight is not the answer to any of our self-doubts; confidence has to be fought and won by our own determination and strength (with a little help from our friends of course). Confidence in our self, our abilities and our potential is not dependent upon our weight (or our losing weight).
We're intelligent, articulate women. yet sometimes we fall into the trap of telling ourselves (over and over again) that it is the weight that holds us back from fulfilling our dreams. Not so. It is allowing the negative thoughts to take control and to manipulate our thoughts and emotions that are the trouble - dispense with the negative thoughts and replace them with "I can". Try it out. And have fun doing it, without waiting "........... until!"
(And if you can't find a red taffeta dress or swimsuit that suits you, then find yourself a dressmaker who will take on the job of making you look stunning. It will be well worth it. As far as a flattering swimsuit is concerned, have a look at Monif C's website in the US - her suits are absolutely incredible!)
© R P-B, 2010