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Showing posts with label pleasures. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pleasures. Show all posts
Saturday, May 11, 2013
Monday, March 4, 2013
A PERSONAL "CAN DO" LIST
1. I will let go of "negative" labels,
such as lazy or bad or clumsy, that I have used to describe myself these
long years, recognising that labels are inaccurate and destructive and
that they stifle growth.
2. I will nurture myself by giving approving, reassuring messages to myself about me. I will be a friend to myself and offer myself the same understand I would offer to another in my place
3. I will release others from the responsibility of making me happy. I take the initiative to get what I need rather than waiting and hoping that somehow what I need will be brought to me by someone else.
4. I will share the vulnerable parts of myself with those I love.
5. I choose to be happy NOW - to celebrate all the small pleasures of life as they occur - instead of putting happiness off until I lose weight, get married (or divorced), make my first million, move house and so on.
6. I will expect that I will incur the disapproval of others. I recognise there is no way I can please all the people all the time.
7. I realise that some of my greatest learning has come from the mistakes I have made.
8. I embrace the position that I am an intrinsically valuable human being. I am a worthy person simply because I am.
......© 1991-2013 RoseMarys NoteBook - Australia. (By permission of the author.)
Saturday, February 16, 2013
HONESTLY!
Having to do a spot of shopping, a couple
of us stopped and enjoyed a cup of tea (Earl Grey of course!) at a nice
little coffee/tea shop in one of the arcades that are sprinkled around
our small town.
We do this regularly - it not only keeps us up to date with all our gossip, but it also enables us to share a gripe or two, while at the same time indulging in a chosen special cake to accompany our tea. We're all big girls, so there's never any problem of one or two of them attacking any of the others for spoiling ourselves with a cream cake occasionally.
Why was this particular morning any different? I stood at the counter casually deciding which cake to choose, when a very small, smartly dressed woman came and stood beside me. I turned and smiled. She glowered at me and said, "you shouldn't even be thinking of eating anything like that - you're so fat. You should be using your willpower"
So
I did what any well-mannered, well-balanced plus-size lady would do. I
looked down at my ample bust, leaned over and looked at my tummy, and
turned back to her and said "Yes,
you're right, I believe I AM fat. But I'm not rude to people I don't
know. And might I say I certainly don't need any will power. Perhaps
occasionally a little bit of "won't-power" could come in handy but not today.
Which cake do you think I should choose? Ah yes, that beautiful fresh
cream French slice. Don't you agree". She glared at me as though I had just flown in from Mars, mumbled and trotted off to a far table.
The rest of my group were seated by this time, waiting for their morning tea to arrive. The girls behind the counter were trying to hide their laughs and were in quite a twitter. After the snobby lady had left, the proprietor came across to me and said, "you know, that woman upsets so many of our customers with her rudeness and we've never been game to say anything. Thanks for saying what we've often thought and felt. You've made our day."
And yes, we all enjoyed our morning tea - VERY MUCH INDEED!!!
We do this regularly - it not only keeps us up to date with all our gossip, but it also enables us to share a gripe or two, while at the same time indulging in a chosen special cake to accompany our tea. We're all big girls, so there's never any problem of one or two of them attacking any of the others for spoiling ourselves with a cream cake occasionally.
Why was this particular morning any different? I stood at the counter casually deciding which cake to choose, when a very small, smartly dressed woman came and stood beside me. I turned and smiled. She glowered at me and said, "you shouldn't even be thinking of eating anything like that - you're so fat. You should be using your willpower"
So
I did what any well-mannered, well-balanced plus-size lady would do. I
looked down at my ample bust, leaned over and looked at my tummy, and
turned back to her and said "Yes,
you're right, I believe I AM fat. But I'm not rude to people I don't
know. And might I say I certainly don't need any will power. Perhaps
occasionally a little bit of "won't-power" could come in handy but not today.
Which cake do you think I should choose? Ah yes, that beautiful fresh
cream French slice. Don't you agree". She glared at me as though I had just flown in from Mars, mumbled and trotted off to a far table.The rest of my group were seated by this time, waiting for their morning tea to arrive. The girls behind the counter were trying to hide their laughs and were in quite a twitter. After the snobby lady had left, the proprietor came across to me and said, "you know, that woman upsets so many of our customers with her rudeness and we've never been game to say anything. Thanks for saying what we've often thought and felt. You've made our day."
And yes, we all enjoyed our morning tea - VERY MUCH INDEED!!!
Monday, December 24, 2012
It's almost Christmas!
To everyone:
May your Christmas be safe, happy and blessed. May your Christmas Day be filled with much love, laughter and happy times with loved ones - be they family or friends.
Wednesday, August 15, 2012
Florals!
Looks like florals are making a real comeback, even in leggings! While I'm not particularly keen to add a tight pair of floral leggings to my wardrobe, I will certainly be tempted to considering floral tops, tunic tops or jackets. It can take a bit of practice to get things right when it comes to clever dressing and getting the colour scheme to suit you (including contrasts), but when you become more adept at seeing yourself in colours it becomes a lot easier. And believe me, it's great fun. We've got a lot going for us you know, we curvaceous ones, because there's more of us to enhance!
I was talking to a group of ladies this morning and they were bemoaning the fact that there's no colour around. It didn't take long to realise that they were talking about life in general - it seems the grey skies of Melbourne have really dampened their spirits. One even said her garden was a mess as there wasn't a touch of colour showing as yet and that Spring was terribly late. I took the camera out when I got home just to see whether there was any colour in my garden and yes, while it wasn't obvious, it just takes a different frame of mind to see what is around us, when we think everything is dull and grey. Even the tiny, tiny little new shoots on the rose bush. I was once again reminded that nature comes up with some lovely colour combinations.
Well, even though I admit that this Winter is very lengthy and VERY cold, it's amazing just what colour there is around us. I noticed a little girl of about 2 this morning dressed up in her favourite football team's colours - red and black, and that got me to thinking just how versatile these two colours are. In fact I've highlighted black and red a couple of times recently.
But if we take note of the fact that florals are back in vogue, why not make the most of them. Because from what I've seen so far, these florals are BIG in size and big in intensity of colour. No little tiny flowers but big, bold, blatant, blazing floral designs, some slightly abstract. But all making a statement, and this is what we need to do, make a statement to the world, as well as to ourselves. We may be big but we surely can be bold and beautiful!
I was talking to a group of ladies this morning and they were bemoaning the fact that there's no colour around. It didn't take long to realise that they were talking about life in general - it seems the grey skies of Melbourne have really dampened their spirits. One even said her garden was a mess as there wasn't a touch of colour showing as yet and that Spring was terribly late. I took the camera out when I got home just to see whether there was any colour in my garden and yes, while it wasn't obvious, it just takes a different frame of mind to see what is around us, when we think everything is dull and grey. Even the tiny, tiny little new shoots on the rose bush. I was once again reminded that nature comes up with some lovely colour combinations.
Well, even though I admit that this Winter is very lengthy and VERY cold, it's amazing just what colour there is around us. I noticed a little girl of about 2 this morning dressed up in her favourite football team's colours - red and black, and that got me to thinking just how versatile these two colours are. In fact I've highlighted black and red a couple of times recently.
But if we take note of the fact that florals are back in vogue, why not make the most of them. Because from what I've seen so far, these florals are BIG in size and big in intensity of colour. No little tiny flowers but big, bold, blatant, blazing floral designs, some slightly abstract. But all making a statement, and this is what we need to do, make a statement to the world, as well as to ourselves. We may be big but we surely can be bold and beautiful!
Friday, July 6, 2012
Pampering ourselves
It's during winter time that I come back to the idea that we should pamper ourselves more often. Not that any other season doesn't demand we do likewise, but for some reason the cold, wet, wintry days bring with them the feeling that everything is dreary and damp and all we can do is have a hot cup of soup to keep warm and stay indoors for the day.
The past few weeks have certainly not been conducive to looking around the shops or shopping centres for clothes. If I'm honest I do have enough to suit my lifestyle. While I love bringing new fashion trends and ideas from local and overseas suppliers, I think it's also most important that we give ourselves our little treats now and then.
I ventured out this morning just to do the normal chores, and stopped and looked at the window display at a small florist in our local shopping centre. All the presentations were flambouyant in colour, sizes and all with different types of petals and leaves. Having chosen a couple of cards from the card display I walked to the counter at the back of the shop and was assailed by the most fragrant perfume imaginable. And with that perfume came countless happy memories from the past.
Was the perfume from a big, bold, flower stem? No, it was the tiniest little bunch of winter violets, sitting in a small glass vase on the counter. There was no hesitation - I opened my wallet and bought them - just for myself. Just to tell myself I am special!
The more I observe, the more I become convinced that plus-sizers particularly lose the inclination to "spoil" themselves occasionally. Is this because we've been told or had it inferred that we're not worth it? Because this is one of the unkindest lies told to us - we all need to know we're loved, and there's something special about a little bunch of violets that remind me that I am important and special to myself, and even more incredibly to others.
Isn't that worth celebrating?
In what way do you occasionally "treat" yourself to something out of the ordinary?
The past few weeks have certainly not been conducive to looking around the shops or shopping centres for clothes. If I'm honest I do have enough to suit my lifestyle. While I love bringing new fashion trends and ideas from local and overseas suppliers, I think it's also most important that we give ourselves our little treats now and then.
I ventured out this morning just to do the normal chores, and stopped and looked at the window display at a small florist in our local shopping centre. All the presentations were flambouyant in colour, sizes and all with different types of petals and leaves. Having chosen a couple of cards from the card display I walked to the counter at the back of the shop and was assailed by the most fragrant perfume imaginable. And with that perfume came countless happy memories from the past.
Was the perfume from a big, bold, flower stem? No, it was the tiniest little bunch of winter violets, sitting in a small glass vase on the counter. There was no hesitation - I opened my wallet and bought them - just for myself. Just to tell myself I am special!
The more I observe, the more I become convinced that plus-sizers particularly lose the inclination to "spoil" themselves occasionally. Is this because we've been told or had it inferred that we're not worth it? Because this is one of the unkindest lies told to us - we all need to know we're loved, and there's something special about a little bunch of violets that remind me that I am important and special to myself, and even more incredibly to others.
Isn't that worth celebrating?
In what way do you occasionally "treat" yourself to something out of the ordinary?
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